Helping, fixing and serving represent 3 different ways of seeing life.
When you help, you see life as weak,
when you fix, you see life as broken,
when you serve, you see life as whole.
Service is the work of the soul.
(Kitchen Table Wisdom by Rachel Naomi Remen)
As a Life Coach, we aim to serve, not to fix or to help. That would be the primary distinction. I have been coaching internationally for over a decade. A coach serves you as you pursue the things you want to create in your life but have not been able to do so independently as yet.
What is it that you are looking to do or change in your life right now?
What is the situation that you would most want to discuss with a coach if you had the chance?
What do you really really want? :)
As a life coach, I don't advise or give answers. It is an interactive relationship where I can support you in changing the way you see things, so changing the "Observer" that you are through your Body, Emotions and Language is what I will support you to do.
When you change the way you "See" things, you will change your actions and hence have new results.
Through practice, you start making a habit of having more empowering rather than disempowering thoughts is what will help you create lasting change in your life.
As a life coach, I work with people for 3 to 6 months at least to support them in seeing and then embodying the changes to help them become practices.
Coaching is very different from counseling and therapy. Please read all the articles on our website for more distinctions on this.
If I am not for myself, who will be for me?
If I am not for others, what am I?
And if not now, when? Rabii Hillel
A few questions commonly asked:
Do I have a coach?
You bet I do, and I'd be wary of hiring a coach who does not believe in the coaching relationship themselves, or the coach who thinks he is too good to be coached.
My coaching fee: 12-session program for US$2,500. (This works out to US$150 per week) Again, these are all conducted by phone/skype and I support my clients in between the weekly calls with sms/emails in between.
Alternatively you can sign up for 6 sessions for $990
Why 12 sessions? Because it takes 90 days to form new habits and any sustainable change is about instilling new habits.
Personalized life coaching is the only personal development you can put yourself trough, which provides more lasting benefits because it provides support over time. In large training programs, you tend to walk away feeling all buzzed and hyped up but then you slide back just a few weeks later.
Coaching instead provides a stable amount of support over a defined period of time, so you dramatically increase your odds of lasting behavior change.
As soon as you sign up, you will experience first hand the undivided attention of a coach who is there JUST FOR YOU for 12 weeks from the comfort of your home, one who stays in touch with you in between the sessions with messages and emails to help hold you accountable. What do you value this at?
How much does coaching cost?
What are other experienced coaches’ fees like? Generally, coaching can cost anywhere between $75 per session to up to $800 per session, some coaches even will go up to charging a daily rate of $2500. PCC Coaches - Professional Certified Coaches charge anywhere between $150 and $300 per hour and Ontological Coaches even more.
My coaching style is a combination of Life Coaching, NLP and Ontological & Somatic coaching. My experience has made me very intuitive and I find that I am able to facilitate growth and learning in my coachees gracefully and with ease. This is ALL done over the phone only from the comfort of your home or office. In between the calls, unlike with therapy, we keep in touch via sms and email so that you can ask for support any time.
I hope I have been able to shed some light on coaching for you. I hope I have answered your questions. Do email me if you have any other general questions about the services we offer. If you would like to book sessions with me, we can start as early as next week, let me know and I can send you the link so you can make payment via paypal or using a credit card through PayPal.
Flow of the 12 sessions:
As this is always organic and it flows according to the client's agenda, there is no etched way, having said that,
What does a life coach do and how is it different from counselling, therapy and consulting?
the first session would include a discovery process to help the client become clear on what they really want. The coach would ask powerful questions to support the client in declaring those “wants”. As I am trained in NLP as well (Neuro Linguistic Programming) I would ensure that these wants are aligned and also get to the reasons behind the want. For example, someone who wants to become fit and slim, may have an underlying desire to just be liked.
After the goals are clear, and many coaches will work on 3 specific ones, the client and coach will together work out strategies and then tasks that will bring them closer to the goal. Whether it is to increase sales or productivity or to improve the communication with a loved one or to become slimmer.
The session will engage the client in a focused discussion to help them commit to the actions required during the week and handle and breakdowns that were experienced during the week.
Subsequent sessions will address the results vs. the reasons of the previous week.” Do you want to have a life full of reasons (why you do not have the stuff you want) or results?” The client will get to assess their own progress and the opportunity to clear the space by bringing up any challenges they had during the week and any new breakthroughs or change of perspective.
They will also celebrate any wins and the client starts to learn to acknowledge him or herself and express gratitude for the good that they have experienced. We will also help the client make a habit of using positive language, affirmations and visualization techniques to stay positive and attract more positives into their lives. The ontological coaching model is introduced early on to support the client in being able to change their perspective and to learn to engage their bodies, emotion and language and identify when they are not "centered".
Sessions may also include powerful closed-eye processes, creating positive affirmations and tools to support the client in staying aligned towards reaching their goals.
The weekly homework would often involve deep self-inquiries and reflection to help the client become more aware of their thoughts and actions rather than being on “auto-pilot”. Practicing thankfulness will be suggested and clients are given a copy of Malti Bhojwani’s journal at the start to use.
The main distinction between coaching and any other form of therapy or counselling is that coaching is “present and future motivated” whereas the others are often about issues in the past and healing. Coaching supports people in assessing where they are now and then deciding where they want to go. It is often about achieving specific goals in the future. There is no need to delve into the past, it is more a case of, “now what?” In being coached, one does not have to admit either to needing help or even to having a problem. It is positive to have a coach, when even Tiger Woods has had several!? ;)
A life coach supports the client throughout the coaching program and not only on the weekly sessions. The life coach and client are like partners and the coach is accessible in some way to the client and maintains support and accountability for the client throughout, whereas with counselling, it is usually just during the isolated sessions.
In addition, the word 'therapy' conjures up the notion that someone is in need of help or a cure. Coaching clients choose to work with a coach because they want to, not because they need to.
A life coach is not an expert in your given field but will be able to support you be the best in what you want to achieve. Coaches’ act as a sounding board, cheerleader, someone to hold you accountable to doing what you say you are going to do. A good qualified life coach would help you to increase choices and options in how you get where you want to go. Coaching is a process where the client grows and widens their perspectives. Thinking outside the box and beyond the realms of day to day lives is another benefit of life coaching.
Simply put, a coach asks a lot of questions, expects the truth, gets you out of complacency and supports you in living life in top gear. A life coach will help keep you in constant “action” Being and Doing in order to Have what you want.
What are some of the responsibilities of a coach to a client?
Cheer them along the way, nagging them with incessant emails and text messages, encouraging them and questioning their excuses, but above all, the most important thing the coach offers you, is that they will hold you accountable to doing what you say you are going to do.
She is your partner in achieving personal goals, your champion during a turnaround, your sounding board when making choices, your motivation when strong actions are called for, your unconditional support when you take a hit and your wake-up call when you don't hear your own.
What are some of the reasons that people would benefit from life coaching?
The top three goals or desires are around these areas:
1) Work or money – to earn more, change career, assert self at work, be more productive, be happier.
2) Physical appearance – to lose weight, dress better, gain muscle tone.
3) Love and relationships – to find love or that dream partner, to communicate better in relationships, to end toxic ones or to be happy in their current situation.